While I was checking out the links section of some of my favorite blogs, I stumbled across and interesting blog post from Susan Walsh at hookingupsmart.com called The Essential Truth of female promiscuity.
Now, judging from that post alone, then the few that I’ve read on her blog, she seems to be intelligently moderate – accepting of both sexually liberal and sexually conservative views on love, pointing out the advantages, disadvantages of both. And of course, as a moderate, she has haters on both sides, because the loudest critics are the ones that are fanatical about their views and cannot see any alternative.
She gets into some twitter shouting matches over the “magic number” of partners that it takes to make someone promiscuous. Susan Walsh – you seem like a good person that wont waste your time on such childish and petty matters, because they will have their haters. So I’ll do it for you. Hopefully some angry people will hate on me, my blog needs the publicity. Ready?
The Formula of Promiscuity: you are promiscuous (as a man or a woman) if you’ve had sex with more people than your age in years.
The formula is perfect. It accounts for age and the spikes in partners someone can experience in their college or post college years as a result of “finding themselves”. What you do with your promiscuity is up to you. do you label yourself empowered? Slutty? Confident? Experienced?
That is only up to YOU to decide.
EDIT: when looking at the comments of Susan Walsh’ post I realized that not many people share that view. However it is not about the number, it is about the kind of person you are. As an example, one of my best female friends (who is also dating one of my best male friends) has a “number” above the promiscuity line (and a far higher one than her boyfriend). Yet their love and loyalty for each other is incredibly strong (I would know, I’ve heard all their secrets since the relationship began), that it matters much more than an actual number. Any person would be lucky to be with this girl
On the flip side I have another female friend who has had far less sexual partners and is way below the promiscuity line, but the way she talks about using men and her gigantic bloated sense of entitlement would make her a nightmare girl and I wouldn’t recommend dating her to anyone (even though we are good friends).